On the Receiving End of a Sociopath's Lies: A Victim Impact Statement from a Professional Woman and Mother

Link: On the Receiving End of a Sociopath’s Lies: A Victim's Impact Statement

"I don’t really know how to describe how profoundly my brushes with domestic abuse/restraining order abuse/generalized legal abuse have affected me ... [nothing] ... has affected me as deeply as being on the receiving end of a sociopath’s lies, and the legal system’s subsequent validation of those lies. There is no 'coming out the other side' ."

Domestic Violence is the Number One Cause of Homelessness for Young Girls and Women

Meslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Domestic violence is the number one cause of homelessness for young girls and women. It is archaic to limit one's comprehension of domestic violence in its extent as physical battery alone. Domestic violence and abuse take on a much darker, more sinister incarnation in more sophisticated forms such as abuse of process and legal abuse. Abuse is about power and control. Isolation and deprivation are the two most powerful tools abusers can use to control and humiliate their victims, and isolation is easily accomplished by adult bullying and public humiliation. Deprivation is even easier to accomplish by limiting a woman's access to employment, income, money, education and resources. A self-actualized person may have resilience in an emotionally abusive relationship, but as the abuser works his way down the pyramid of Meslow's hierarchy of needs - systematically depriving a woman of basic human rights - that resilience is ultimately depleted.  When basic needs such as shelter and safety cannot be met - a woman's self esteem and emotional welfare become secondary in her fight to survive. Bruises heal after a few days. But the effects of homeless traumatic stress and post traumatic stress take longer to heal. Restoring a woman's dignity cannot take place in a homeless environment. Ensuring a woman's lack of dignity is essential for abusers. Forcing a woman into homelessness and poverty is accomplished using law enforcement and the legal system to abuse process, while simultaneously publicly humiliating and bullying the victim.  

This is power and control. 

Link:  "Lost wages could stem from a few different factors. Some women may need to take time off work to go to court, for instance. Other women may experience an escalation in the abuse after their partners realize they’re attempting to get the legal system involved, which could involve interfering at women’s workplaces. Previous research has confirmed that work is actually a dangerous place for victims of domestic abuse. Among women who are killed on the job, the leading cause of death is homicide — frequently, murders perpetrated by intimate partners. Many abusers target women at work because they know that’s where they can find them; even if a woman has broken off the relationship and moved out of the house, she’ll still need to show up for her shift at her job. Even if women aren’t physically harmed, they may be fired. Some women lose their jobs after their abusers start showing up to harass them, [or send police to harass them] since their employers see that as a problematic disruption. The majority of U.S. states don’t have employment protections for victims of domestic violence, leaving them vulnerable to face economic consequences for abuse that’s out of their control. In a study of 32 women in abusive relationships, 91 percent ended up getting fired or resigning from their jobs over the course of two years because of their abuse."

People Hurt People... to Hurt People. The Thrill Sociopaths and Abusers Experience Abusing Process by Using False Accusations to Manipulate the Courts and their Audience (the Community) is more than Just Character Assassination: it Can and Does Lead to Murder by Proxy; and how Victims of False Accusations who Survive the Bullying and Abuse Remain Incarcerated for Life

Link: Suicide is a recognized consequence of bullying; name-calling and public humiliation are recognized as among the forms that bullying takes; and falsely branding someone a stalker or child abuser, for example, certainly qualifies as publicly humiliating name-calling. Whether someone is disparaged on the playground, on Facebook, in a courtroom, or in the headlines makes absolutely no difference; the effect is the same, and it may be unbearable. This stuff shouldn’t need to be pointed out to grown-ups. But since the fatal consequences of false accusation don’t support any dominant political agendas—and may undermine them—they’re ignored. That people are harried and hectored by lies, sometimes to death, is an inconvenient truth.

Link: Restraining Orders Based on Fraud Falsely Imprison Defendants Whether They’re Incarcerated or Not

"Faith in the conceit that restraining orders are minor impingements on defendants’ lives depends on accepting that being falsely, publically, and permanently labeled a stalker or batterer, for example, shouldn’t interfere with a person’s comfort, equanimity, or ability to realize his or her dreams. Such faith is founded, in other words, on the fantastical belief that wrongful vilification won’t exercise a detrimental influence on a person’s mental state, won’t affect his or her familial and social relationships, won’t negatively impact his or her employment and employability, etc.

Clearly such faith is beyond unreasonable; it’s inane. Being forced to live with false allegations can be crippling—for painfully obvious reasons. Whether a person is forced to agonize in a cell or is permitted to agonize in his or her place of choice is of scant significance to the emotional well-being of the sufferer. Prison isn’t just an environment, and arresting someone doesn’t require handcuffs."

Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter Here: The Hell of Legal Abuse Syndrome

Link: Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter Here: The Hell of Legal Abuse Syndrome

Australia Acknowledges Abuse of Process and How LAS (Legal Abuse Syndrome) Further Serves to Traumatize Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence and Abuse

Link: How False Accusations Permanently Decimate Lives, Making it a Perfect Tool for Abusers to use Against their Victims

Link: Australia Acknowledges "Kangaroo Courts" and Abuse of Process; LAS (Legal Abuse Syndrome) is a Qualified Diagnosis; and How Domestic Violence Abusers are Finally Being Recognized for Abuse of Process Against Their Victims

..."This argument—ye olde non sequitur again—ignores (among a great many other considerations) that there are women who are battered and/or raped who are also then falsely accused by their batterers or rapists to compound the violation and conceal their crimes. In some cases, at least, feminists who deny legal abuse and its horrors abet batterers and rapists of women."

Link: Why Women Who Are Falsely Implicated as Abusers Have No Defenders

Gaslighting

 "Sociopaths frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but are also typically charming and convincing liars who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions."

Gaslighting: the Etymology of and How Sociopaths Gaslight their Victims 

The Current Conscience - What is Gaslighting?

Psychology Today: What is Gaslighting? 

How to Detect Gaslighting 

Rethinking Charm - Charm as the New Reg Flag

When His Put Downs Sound True - Practical Words to Visit While You Rebuild Your Life

Learning to Stand Up for Yourself: Healing and Hope for Victims and Survivors of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Trauma